This is a post on how to deal with disappointment. There are times when we will put so much hope in something we think God will do; whether it be a job opportunity, a potential relationship or bring a new season. There are times where we face disappointment because it just doesn’t happen. What do we do then? How do we connect God’s goodness/grace/love/mercy to our disappointment?
Having recently experiencing a major disappointment, I spent most of my time crying (yes, I do have feelings). I was inspired to turn to the book of Philippians. The book of Philippians was written by uncle Paul. Paul is definitely like an uncle for me, lol. Uncle Paul sends this letter to the Christians in the Roman colony of Philippi. The major theme of this letter was encouragement. Paul was encouraging the Philippians to keep going and to live their lives that is pleasing to God, evidenced by their service to God and one another.
I read the whole book but chapters 3 and 4 stuck out to me more. I’m going to share a few points on how to get over your disappointment. These do take work (because I’m still working on them also) and also take a lot of perseverance on your side too. I think it’s ok to acknowledge before God how you really feel. If you feel disappointed, upset, angry or confused, whatever or however you feel take it to God. Its hard to believe, but He can relate. Jesus was human, and experienced all the emotions we do. The Father is not a distant Father and He feels too. Its evidenced all over the Bible that God knows and understands how we feel.
“But I press on to make it my own…”
Point 1: PRESS ON.
12 Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. 13 Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. 15 Let those of us who are mature think this way, and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal that also to you.16 Only let us hold true to what we have attained. (Philippians 3:12-16)
Whenever something disappointing has happened, we often feel down. We feel overwhelmed with different emotions that we have to deal with. I encourage you to face these emotions, really try to understand and wrestle with them. You are allowed to feel what you feel. Then deal with them healthily. Learn how to respond to your emotions in such a way they do not negatively affect you or others now or in the future. One of the keys to good mental health is learning how to deal with your emotions.
Once you have dealt with these emotions, press on. Life doesn’t stand still, it keeps moving and so should you. Keep striving on. Keep running. In verse 13, Paul says he forgets what lies behind and strains forward to what is ahead! We should do the same. The past is the past and it has gone. Now its time to press into what lies ahead. Because it does get better.
“Do not be anxious about anything…”
Point 2: DON’T BE ANXIOUS
6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7)
I read a quote on instagram which said “if you have time to worry, then you have time to pray about it.” Which I really agree with and I’m definitely working on as well. After a disappointing event, it is definitely easier to fall into the trap of worrying – especially about this happening again and this spirals into fear, doubt, anxiety etc. But God says, “DON’T BE ANXIOUS!” Let everything be known to God in prayer THEN the peace of God will be experienced in your heart. Submit everything in prayer, nothing is too big or too small for God. Then continue to walk in that peace.
“Rejoice in the Lord always…”
Point 3: REJOICE
4 Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. (Philippians 4:4)
Rejoice! Be thankful to God! God is good so whatever you ‘missed’ out on, God has something better in store! So rejoice that God is good and that His love is unfailing. Be grateful to see another day and for what He has done! Ask God to restore the joy of salvation to you! Put on some praise and worship music and just dance! Be joyful! Rejoice in the fact that God’s love actually can’t let you down. It actually lifts you up!
Enjoy this sick track (that I am SURE you will dance to). Hillsong Young & Free – Love Won’t Let Me Down
How do you deal with your disappointing seasons?