“I hate my scarred skin.”
“I hate my nose.”
“I hate my lips.”
“I hate my skin tone.”
“I hate my smile.”
“I hate my weight.”
These were all thoughts and insecurities I’ve had before. We live in a society where looks are everything! A scroll, swipe or double tap on any form of social media will leave you feeling like a rotten potato.
As hard as it is to remember in such a looks-based society, beauty begins on the inside of a person. We should spend time cultivating our character than worrying about our outer appearances. God is counter-cultural, He doesn’t look at people the way we see them. We look at the outer appearance and He looks at the heart! (1 Samuel 16:7). We shouldn’t judge people by their outward appearance (James 2:2-4).
1 Peter 3:3-4 says “Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” Our focus shouldn’t be on the outside and how we look (although at least be hygienic and presentable lol) but more so on our character and our spirit because that is more precious to God. It is our character that carries us through life. Our looks change over time as trends come and go. Our character is more stable through life.
My looks shouldn’t stop me from living the life God has called me to live or has planned out for me. My looks haven’t stopped people loving me for who I am (if it has, then its their loss!) or from chasing dreams/goals that have been laid on my heart and it shouldn’t stop you either.
Beauty fades (Proverbs 31:30) and appearances can be deceiving. Inner beauty should be the priority. Living like Christ since we are His ambassadors. The Bible describes Christ as not being attractive (Isaiah 53:2) and if the Bible says you weren’t cute, then boy, you definitely weren’t cute! BUT Jesus drew crowds like no other. The crowds didn’t come because He looked like a Wilhemina model but because of WHO He was. The spirit of God is a very attractive spirit and when you have it, people are drawn to you and they will not understand why! You draw crowds because of your character, not your looks.
We need to let God’s word define who we are. Self worth shouldn’t be in what other people think of you or even what you think. God created us in HIS image, (Genesis 1:27) so why do we criticise ourselves? When God created you, He set you apart and gave you your own distinguishing and unique characteristics. Self confidence (not arrogance, God hates pride and arrogance – Proverbs 8:13) and self assurance comes from the inside-out, not from the outside. This comes from knowing who you are in Christ.
For me, insecurity creeps in when I take my eyes of Christ. Its not about me. It was never about me and how I feel. Its about Christ. I was created to bring Him glory, not myself. And frankly, I am loved just the way I was created. You should remember this too.
I am slowly starting to love myself more because I ask God to give me His eyes. I want to see myself the way He sees me. You should to. His word is pretty clear on how He feels about us! Please remember, God loves you regardless of your looks. You are an original masterpiece because God does not make junk.
Scriptures to meditate on (emphasis added; all NLT):
Psalm 139:13-17 – 13 You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb.14 Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.15 You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.16 You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. 17 How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered!
Luke 12:6-7 – 6 “What is the price of five sparrows—two copper coins? Yet God does not forget a single one of them. 7 And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.
Isaiah 64:8 – 8 And yet, O Lord, you are our Father. We are the clay, and you are the potter. We all are formed by your hand.
Genesis 1:26a – 26 Then God said, “Let us make human beings in our image, to be like us.
1 Peter 3:3-4 – 3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.
Ephesians 2:10 – 10 For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.
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